Happiness is easy. You figure out what makes you happy and strive to have more of that in your life. Simple.
We all know it’s not otherwise there would be a lot more happier people walking around. So why is it so difficult for us to achieve happiness?
I think there are a couple of different factors. The first is that the question “What makes you happy?” isn’t always easy to answer. You may not know what makes you happy. That may be something that you really need to stop and think about.
You may know individual things that make you happy but don’t understand the reason why. What is the root cause of that happiness? Maybe that is something that you need to figure out.
Perhaps you are so consumed with things that make you unhappy (stress, anger, anxiety, fear) that it makes it very difficult to balance that out and to be happy. In that case, the secret to happiness is figuring out what makes you unhappy and strive to eliminate as much of that as possible fro your life which is also not always easy.
I love being outside in nature. I enjoy going on hikes, paddle boarding, kayaking, sitting on a beach, camping, skateboarding – you get the idea. Anytime I can do that with my dog Micah it increases the happiness ten fold for me. But why does that bring me such joy? Each activity is different from one another with the only constant being that they take place outdoors.
Part of the reason that I enjoy being out in nature so much is because I spent so many years trapped in an office sitting at a cubical. I didn’t have a lot of time to do these things very often as I had a long daily commute on top of my time in the office. When I got to the point in my life where I didn’t need to sit in that office anymore I started going out into nature and doing all of the things that I enjoyed a lot more.
But then I realized that I was doing a lot of work in these outdoor settings. Over the summer I attended online classes while sitting on a beach in the morning. I write quite often via dictation while I’m hiking (this post was largely written during a hike). I’ve conducted a coaching session on a beach and a client consultation on a paddle board. Maybe it wasn’t just the office environment I had previously been in that I didn’t like, maybe I didn’t even like sitting at mom own desk at home.
Knowing that being outdoors makes me happy and sitting at a desk makes me unhappy allows me to change up my environment whenever possible and work in a way that is most beneficial for me.
So that’s the aim – figure out what makes you happy and strive to have more of that in your life while also figuring out what makes you unhappy and striving to eliminate as much of that from your life. You’re not going to be able to do it 100% on both sides and that’s ok. If you can do 5% on each side it’s going to make a huge difference. It’s progress not perfection.
Just take incremental steps, eventually you’ll get there.
Originally posted on meatitate.com