Good morning everybody. It is Monday morning. It’s Martin Luther King Jr. day. The sun is out, the sky is blue, I was outside with the dogs and the temperature wasn’t bad. For all intents and purposes a very fine morning but I’m uneasy this week. I feel uneasy this week with everything that’s been going on. Politically this is inauguration week and I’m nervous about this week and I can openly admit that and understand that this is how I’m feeling and just need to acknowledge that and figure how to get through that. I feel like maybe after the 20th I might be a little bit better. It’s been my benchmark date for really long time so we’ll have to see what happens.
I decided that I’m going to start doing a quick little recording on Monday mornings, kind of like a weekly intentions type video, just to announce what I’m working on this week and what my theme for the week is. It usually revolves around the Thursday Klatches which if you never participated in those they’re just a free 45-minute discussion about different topics. This week I decided I wanted to talk about moderation because it’s a very interesting topic for me because once you mentioned the word moderation the first thing that pops into peoples minds is drinking, you know alcohol not coffee, although it could be, and then second it goes to food. But for me, I think looking at things on a wider spectrum is more interesting and so that’s what I’m gonna be trying to do for myself this week while I look at the topic of moderation. Limiting the amount of time I spend looking at the news, limiting anything that is not productive and doesn’t serve me well.
So that’s my intention to the week is try to be more moderate with everything that I’m doing. We’ll have to see how that works out. Join me on Thursday at 8:30 AM or 5:30 PM for a Klatch and now we can we discuss more about that.
I hope you have a fantastic week. I want everybody to be kind to one another and be kind to yourselves. If your feeling the way that I’m feeling now definitely behind yourself and I will talk to you soon.
This is a transcription from a video post which can be found on my social media sites.
I used to donate platelets on a consistent basis. I would aim for about once a month on average. Then the New Jersey Blood Center by my house closed and it became incredibly inconvenient. There were no centers near me. They finally opened one about a half an hour drive away from my house a little over a year ago. Not as close as before but manageable. I got there once before the pandemic changed everything.
Yesterday I got back and donated platelets again. It was the first time in about a year. I felt guilty this entire time for not donating as I knew there was such a demand. I would wage a war with myself with every email I received asking for donations. In the end, I just didn’t feel comfortable.
It doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing – you need to feel comfortable with what you’re doing. Don’t let anyone pressure you into anything even if that person is yourself.
So this past weekend was the big David Bowie weekend. Friday was what would have been his 74th birthday and Sunday was the five year anniversary of his passing. Being a big David Bowie fan I started thinking about the great quote that the actor Simon Pegg said when David Bowie died. He said “If you feel sad today just remember that the world is over 4 billion years old and you somehow managed to exist at the same time as David Bowie.”
I think that’s an incredible quote and it really got me thinking about being present in the relationships I currently have in with the people that I know.
So here’s what I want you do. I want you think about somebody in your life that you have a really strong deep connection with. I don’t want it to be a family member, I don’t want it to be a mother or father or child or a sibling. I don’t want there to be any correlation to the existence of one because of the other. Think of somebody, a friend, a mentor, a teacher and think about the fact that not only did your time here on this planet happened to coincide at the same time as theirs but also as large as this planet is you’ve somehow managed to overlap in the same geographic location.
The odds of that are pretty slim and that should make that relationship feel that much stronger. So give that a thought. Reach out to that person. Just say “hey.” Let them know how you feel.
I’ll talk to you soon.
This is a transcription from a video post which can be found on my @meatitate social media sites.
I recently read “The Catcher In The Rye” by JD Salinger. It had been on a pile of books I had been meaning to get to for years. It may be a literary classic but for me it was terrible. Besides appreciating that the writing style may have been in contrast to the typical style when it was produced I found nothing enjoyable about it. I thought to myself many times that if I were in the presence of Holden Caufield I would leave the conversation.
And yet I continued to read the book.
In the beginning it was just to see where the story was going to progress to. After I realized it was going nowhere I was interested in I continued solely for the purpose of finishing it. I actually made a commitment to myself that I would finish all 216 pages.
That is a good question as it was obviously bringing me no joy in my life. It may be some deep rooted ethic to finish what you start but I’ve abandoned projects in the past. Perhaps I didn’t want to think of myself as someone who doesn’t finish things.
Fast forward to this morning.
I was listening to a guided meditation on reconnecting to your inner child. I found the instructor a bit abrasive and the style of visual guidance not one that I usually respond to. I continued listening regardless. Finally midway through I realized I wasn’t enjoying this and therefore getting nothing from it. I turned it off and moved on.
Too many times in life we find ourselves in a situation that isn’t pleasurable and yet we fail to remove ourselves. Granted sometimes this isn’t an option (like a tiresome work meeting) but most times we feel this undue obligation.
How many bad movies have you sat through. How many bad meal did you finish?
We need to think more highly of ourselves and when possible not subject ourselves to things that aren’t making us happy.
Originally published on meatitate.com
So the other morning I’m doing my morning meditation. I listen to a lot of the same ones but I tend to mix it up. They always want you to relax a part of the body. Relax the top your head, relax your eyes, relax your jaw, relax your shoulders and that’s always fine. I don’t have a problem with that whatsoever.
But I was doing up a new meditation that I hadn’t done before, new instructor, and they said to relax “relax your face” and I immediately kind of got slightly defensive. I just wasn’t relaxing at all; it was just like “RELAX YOUR FACE” and I kind of took it like the old schoolyard threat from when I was younger with “shut your face” which was a thing that was said.
I start thinking about that. I found it very interesting because words have such weight and I know if we’re talking about profanity or derogatory terms people can be more offended by those or it can rub them the wrong way very quickly. But “relax your face”, I mean that’s just that’s just simple. There’s nothing offensive about it but yet my body reacted to it that way and got me really thinking about the power of words and how you can have just simple everyday words that cannot necessarily be offensive per se, but maybe people just aren’t comfortable with or don’t like.
I’ve met quite a few people in my life that don’t like the word moist; I don’t know why. I know somebody who hates the combination of the words chill and relax into to chillax. It’s harmless. It doesn’t mean anything but it can create this reaction within us when we hear certain words that we don’t like. The funny thing to me is that when we find out what that word is to somebody else, and not always, but instead of being nice and saying I just won’t use that word we tend to be jerks about it. We tend to make fun of somebody and we tend to use the word more frequently around them just to kinda get under their skin. I don’t know why we do that. It doesn’t really make sense to me.
So think about that. Think about words. Think about the power of words and be mindful of the words that you’re using around other people because they may not be words that they are particularly fond of. And if you find out that somebody is not fond of a particular word be conscious of that, be mindful of that, and try not using that word.
That’s just my thought for the day, just something I was thinking about. I hope you have a great day today.
This is a transcription from a video post which can be found on my @meatitate social media sites
It happened. 2020 is over and it’s officially the New Year. Do you know what that means? It means you need to start look at those New Year’s resolutions you made.
Did you make resolutions last year? How did that work out? Were you successful? If you weren’t ask yourself why and then ask why is this year going to be any different.
The main reasons why resolutions don’t work out is because they are either unrealistic, there’s not a good plan of action put in place or there’s just not a good support system.
I want to help you achieve your goals. I want you to have a positive and realistic relationship with health and wellness with less stress, less pain and less chronic illness in your life. Does that sound cliché? I think a better question is does that sound good to you?
If it does, go to meatitate.com and book a free 90 minute consultation and let’s see if we can work together to put forth a plan for success for 2021.
Originally posted on meatitate.com
This week I am trying to get myself back on track. The holidays really have a way of throwing you off your normal routine and once that happens it can be difficult to course correct.
The week of Christmas I help out at a friends artisanal cheese shop making holiday cheese and charcuterie platters. It is a lot of hours and all of my usual schedules go right out the window. I may not meditate, I may not workout, I may not eat at a regular time and I definitely do not get to adhere to my sleep schedule. And then the holiday itself happens. I usually need a few days afterwards just to get my body back to feeling like it normally does.
During that time I can be a bit hard on myself that I’m not getting everything done that I should be. Everyone’s schedule is thrown off during the holidays and there is nothing we can do about it. We can however be gentle on ourselves and acknowledge we are off course and will get back on track.
So go easy on yourself if you feel thrown off. Acknowledge that you are and make a plan to get back on track.
Originally posted on meatitate.com
I am in the middle of a literary classic and let me tell you – it’s terrible. It has been sitting on my to-read list for ages and I finally started it a couple of weeks ago. To say I’ve been trudging through it would be putting it mildly. For the amount of pages it has I should have been done a week ago but I still have a solid third left to go.
So why am I still reading it?
I prefer to finish a book when I start one but this book is not for me. And that’s completely fine. That’s the beauty of art – sometimes it’s not for you.
Just because someone else thinks it’s good (or bad) doesn’t mean you need to hold the same opinion. I think sometimes the lesson learned is what it is that you don’t like.
I don’t like this book.
I was on a Zoom call get together last with about a dozen or so people. At one point I made a joke and everyone went silent. I didn’t think the joke was that bad but there was about 3-4 seconds of complete and utter silence. I mean no one even moved.
I had that brief moment of panic where I thought maybe I had said something that was insensitive to someone on the call.
Then everyones frames moved in double speed to catch up and the conversation resumed as normal. Everyone hadn’t gone quiet – it was only a technology glitch.
I never got to hear anyones reactions as I missed five seconds of conversations so I’ll never know if it was a bad joke or a hit.
I can’t remember the last time I made a New Year’s Resolution. It’s just something I don’t believe in doing. If I have something I want to change in my life I tend to try to make that change in the moment rather than scheduling it for sometime in the future. I’ve been told that I am in the minority in that regard.
There are many benefits to creating New Year’s Resolutions even beyond the resolutions themselves. The tricky part is following through with your resolutions after they’ve been made. It’s almost become a bit of a joke about people not sticking to their resolutions and that flippancy may be to our own detriment. I believe that we should really think out our resolutions before we try to enact them.
Many times we don’t succeed in our resolutions because we don’t properly plan. You need to have a clear understanding of what you are trying to achieve and how to achieve it before you begin. This is why New Year’s Resolutions made on a whim ever work out.
Creating a plan in advance can help you succeed. I work with my clients to design their visions and goals and we always look three months out. If you think you can make a major lifestyle change in a day it will usually not work.
Really think about the “Why” in regards to your resolutions before you try to commit to it. If you’re serious about it but have a history of not succeeding reach out to someone who can help you achieve your goals. There’s no reason to go it alone.
I can be reached at 732.962.8124 or email@example.com if you would like to discuss setting a good New Year’s Resolution.
Originally posted on meatitate.com