I recently lost my job at a company that I worked at for 27 years (and three days). I’m not upset about it as I really wasn’t happy there. It started as summer help when I was in between jobs and turned into multiple careers. Mine was a great mobility story and the type of story that most companies promote but not mine.
You may be asking “if you were unhappy why did you stay?” And the answer to that would be fear and conditioning. I was brought up in a lower middle class family and working is what we did. I got my first job when I was 13 and there hasn’t been much time in the 36 years since that I haven’t worked. Even now I’m working (more on that later). I’ve always have had this need for stability and security which has kept me from taking any sort of risk when money was involved.
I stayed with the devil I knew because I had fairly good job security and that was better than potential happiness and the unknown.
Now that devil is gone and though I am in a good place financially there are still moments of panic. I know I don’t have to but it’s there and it’s different and a little scary and I am prone to running a negative narrative through my head.
It’s all fine. Working without a safety net shows you’re confident in what you are doing and also not afraid of the consequences of failing. That’s not entirely true for me right now but it’s getting there.